Ground leads, fire lives inside it. You take your time deciding and then you are extraordinarily hard to stop, because the decision was never impulsive and therefore has nothing to collapse.
People underestimate the heat because the surface is calm. Then they see what you have quietly kept going for ten years and adjust their opinion.
A hearth is fire that has been given a place to live. That is the whole design of you. The thing to watch is that a fire kept in one place too long stops being warmth and becomes habit — and you would be the last to notice.