Ground first, feeling right underneath. You build slowly and you build for people — a home, a routine, a way of doing things that other people can rest inside.
It is undramatic work and it is almost never remarked upon. You have probably made several situations survivable for someone who never quite realised it was you.
A garden is not wild and it is not a building. It is the arrangement that lets living things do what they were going to do anyway, with less difficulty. That is a real skill and it is yours.