Feeling leads, and fire follows it. You care first, then you act — and when you act on behalf of someone you love, there is very little you will not do. People feel that, and it is why they bring you things.
The order matters. Fire-first people act and then feel; you feel and then move, which makes your actions unusually well-aimed and unusually costly. You spend yourself on the people you have decided on.
A wellspring gives continuously and does not get to choose who drinks. That is worth knowing about yourself. Deciding, sometimes, is not coldness — it is what keeps the spring running.