You want to know where a thing is going. Not from anxiety — you simply function better when the shape is clear, and you have a real talent for making shape where there was none. People rely on you for exactly this, often without saying so.
What looks like control from the outside usually feels like responsibility from the inside. You are the one who thought about what happens if it goes wrong, and you are usually right that somebody had to.
The Emperor loosens when he learns that not every situation needs to be held. Some hold themselves. Letting one do that is not negligence.